Girl-friend, Boy-friend, Lover? Come on! There Has to be a B

I've always hated the term when it comes to courtship and dating, "Boy-friend" and "Girl-friend," because back in the old days there names meant exactly as they sound, "I have a friend that is a boy," and, "I have a friend that is a girl". So...let's brainstorm, what are some names we can try and come up with that sound better and less offensive then "Lover," possibly, "Mate," and many more.

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"For many are called, but few are chosen" - Matthew 22:14 ver. New American Standard.
"Though my soul is born from darkness, it shall rise in perfect light, I have loved the stars too fondly, to be fearful of the night". Unknown
"On those nights that I gazed upon the full moon in longing it was always you that my heart was calling and it is now I realize you are the one." - me

Adept Registration date: 2008-04-02 Number of posts: 174

i use 'beloved' when im talking to my friends on the net.

Nataku wrote:

i use 'beloved' when im talking to my friends on the net.

I've heard people use that one to. Despite it sounds far better then 'Girlfriend' or 'Boyfriend' it just might be a bit too old fashioned? Or perhaps I'm just in a mood today and can't know what I like or dislike. Laughing

We'll keep brainstorming.

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"For many are called, but few are chosen" - Matthew 22:14 ver. New American Standard.
"Though my soul is born from darkness, it shall rise in perfect light, I have loved the stars too fondly, to be fearful of the night". Unknown
"On those nights that I gazed upon the full moon in longing it was always you that my heart was calling and it is now I realize you are the one." - me

Adept Registration date: 2008-04-02 Number of posts: 174

I know you you feel, is dislike the 'friends' ones also. I used Beloved to refer to her, and of course Bonded to my bonded, so it kinda keeps steady with me. i doubt there will ever be an agreeable word.

Nataku wrote:

I know you you feel, is dislike the 'friends' ones also. I used Beloved to refer to her, and of course Bonded to my bonded, so it kinda keeps steady with me. i doubt there will ever be an agreeable word.

I almost feel the same way, but I still must try...even if my attempt may be futile.

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"For many are called, but few are chosen" - Matthew 22:14 ver. New American Standard.
"Though my soul is born from darkness, it shall rise in perfect light, I have loved the stars too fondly, to be fearful of the night". Unknown
"On those nights that I gazed upon the full moon in longing it was always you that my heart was calling and it is now I realize you are the one." - me

I have always-in me head-used the term "my heart" or "beloved" either way neither of those terms actually seem to cover the way i currently feel for the lady I'm with. just adding my two cents =)

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What about Significant Other? It sounds so grand, a person who means much to you. Or soulmate, if your know for sure the person is indeed your soulmate. Very Happy

Soul-mate is a tricky word though and for some it can gradually over time become a negative word rather then a positive...like for me. However I understand a great deal more then I did back then when I was some what mis-using the word.

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"For many are called, but few are chosen" - Matthew 22:14 ver. New American Standard.
"Though my soul is born from darkness, it shall rise in perfect light, I have loved the stars too fondly, to be fearful of the night". Unknown
"On those nights that I gazed upon the full moon in longing it was always you that my heart was calling and it is now I realize you are the one." - me

Initiate Registration date: 2008-04-04 Location: Europe Number of posts: 8

Do tell, how can it become negative?

It became slowly negative for me (before I really grasped the whole 'soul-mate' concept on a better level. And this was also before I knew you could have more the one) when many of the men I kept dating that I thought were "Soul-mates" just kept disappointing me and breaking my heart. That gets very discouraging especially when you still might believe in a "One true love".

<---Hopeless Romantic

I still say it's possible to find someone like this, but...they would most definitely be the other piece to the big puzzle. As I feel my current love and I are. He definitely makes me feel this way. Now only time will tell.

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"For many are called, but few are chosen" - Matthew 22:14 ver. New American Standard.
"Though my soul is born from darkness, it shall rise in perfect light, I have loved the stars too fondly, to be fearful of the night". Unknown
"On those nights that I gazed upon the full moon in longing it was always you that my heart was calling and it is now I realize you are the one." - me

Subject: Terms of Love Mon Apr 07, 2008 2:58 am

Nyghtshayde wrote:

It became slowly negative for me (before I really grasped the whole 'soul-mate' concept on a better level. And this was also before I knew you could have more the one) when many of the men I kept dating that I thought were "Soul-mates" just kept disappointing me and breaking my heart. That gets very discouraging especially when you still might believe in a "One true love".

I have trouble with the idea of multiple soul-mates for myself, and wonder if their could be debate that your previous beaus were not actually soul-mates? Though that's only based on a personal belief. I am glad that you finally found a keeper from the sounds of things. Yay love! cheers

As for the titles(?) for loved ones of a romantic nature, I've always been fond of the term Sweethearts. There is also main squeeze, ball and chain, other half, better half, center of my world, so on and so forth, It just depends on the level of the relationship and the people in it I think.

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"To feel ... it's as vital as breath. And without it, without love, without anger, without sorrow, breath is just a clock... ticking."

for me it doesn't realymatter so much, because the only person who i have ever had THAT kind of feeling for... simply can't be mine. and so, i was never bothered about the term "girlfriend" or "boyfriend." i will however, look for terms to use... they have spouse for married couples, lifemates as well... .... it may take me a whil to find an apropriate word for the relationship that comes with being a boyfriend or gilrlfriend. bedmates for those who are sleeping together, eliminating the "friends-with-benefits" term, which i always hated.

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"What are ghosts but sad memories? We are all being haunted, whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. Our regrets and our fears are always with us."

I am like everybody, and nobody is quite like me.

The question is not why. The question is why not.

I long to be Limitless again...

I just like knowing I have someone, the title doesn't really make the difference to me.

Victor_Delicrouix wrote:

I just like knowing I have someone, the title doesn't really make the difference to me.

XP so I bet you just call me girlfriend then, bah! How plain! lol XD

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"For many are called, but few are chosen" - Matthew 22:14 ver. New American Standard.
"Though my soul is born from darkness, it shall rise in perfect light, I have loved the stars too fondly, to be fearful of the night". Unknown
"On those nights that I gazed upon the full moon in longing it was always you that my heart was calling and it is now I realize you are the one." - me

hahah! XD sound sto me like an invitation for you to decide what you two refer to eachother as!

_________________
"Only in our vulnerability is there true power. And that power is life itself."

"What are ghosts but sad memories? We are all being haunted, whether we choose to acknowledge it or not. Our regrets and our fears are always with us."

I am like everybody, and nobody is quite like me.

The question is not why. The question is why not.

I long to be Limitless again...